So you went on a date with a guy. You got all dressed up, and he told you that you looked beautiful and took you out to a nice dinner. After whatever number of dates, you sleep together and eventually agree to be exclusive. Somewhere in the following month or few months, something changes and he turns on you. You react to this, and he does say all the right things to appease you, but he still acts differently and communication has dwindled.
After enough time passes, this grows old, and you feel no choice but to end it with him, to which he doesn’t show much emotion. He is, however, nice about the whole thing.
You dated Mr. Nice Guy™.
It is almost impossible to tell Mr. Nice Guy™ and the Good Guy apart off first glance or even after a few months. He says all the right things, which makes you look past some of the things he does that should actually be huge red flags.
While Mr. Nice Guy™ says all the right things, his actions don’t always reflect his seemingly good nature, and you run the risk of finding yourself heartbroken after just a few months.
Here's how to know if you're dating Mr. Nice Guy™ or The Good Guy:
There is a difference between the guy who says you are beautiful and the guy who knows you are beautiful. There is a guy who will say the right things and a guy who will actually do them --without you needing to ask.
When it comes to being single, we can get so discouraged after so many bad dates that finding a guy who says nice things to make us smile seems to be enough. After a while, however, those “nice things” become just words, and you realize that Mr. Nice Guy™ isn’t putting forth any more effort than he has to in order to keep you around.
Because, you deserve someone who will put forth effort so that he gets to be the guy who calls you his girl.