We’ve all been there. You’re speaking to That Person, and the seemingly innocent chit chat suddenly evolves into frisky messages with no way back. Heavy words involving some naughty onomatopoeias have been said, and you ask yourself—are nudes going to be sent? And if so, how much is going to be shown?
Let’s tackle this from a moral ground first. From my own personal experience I know that sending nudes can be a bit of a touchy, guilt-inducing subject. At a younger age I found it pretty shocking and dangerous. I remember girls in school talking shit about other girls who sent them—in their eyes, those girls were slutty and in the wrong. And then there’s the whole danger part: will they share it with their friends? Can I trust this person? At this point I’ve sent my fair share of nudes, and let me assure you: it’s not as big of a deal as some people might make you think.
Obviously, don’t send nudes to people you barely know. Once you put something out there you can’t unsend it. You need to remember that people—especially horny males—can say a whole lot of things to get what they want. So be cautious with who you’re sending your nudes to!
Sex is still pretty taboo, and there are a lot of public opinions on what you can or can’t do. But honestly, you’re the only one who gets to choose what you feel comfortable with. If you want to heat up the atmosphere with some sexting, phone sex, or nudes, do it! Sex is intimate and vulnerable, and there’s no place here for shame.
Taking a great nude isn’t that easy. Whether you want to send it as a surprise or in the midst of a steamy convo, you want to present yourself as totally sexy and tempting. This means you’re not going to just lay there like a starfish and let the camera flash do the rest. You want the light to be dim and highlight the right spots. So take your phone, use the front camera, and try out different angles.
Gradual is good.
Speaking of not revealing too much, don’t reveal too much. At least not with the first nude. Sending nudes is playful teasing, so don’t rush with anything! At first you can show just a bit of your body—maybe don’t even show your boobs. Sending five increasingly revealing pictures is much sexier than sending just one fully naked one. You want to heat up the atmosphere and drive your sexting partner insane. So be playful and just enjoy yourself. The most important thing is that you personally like these pictures and find them attractive.